How To Introduce Chores To Your Child: A Father’s Guide
If you want to get ahead in life, you’ll need to have a great work ethic. The person who rises to the top in any profession is not usually the most talented or knowledgeable person, but rather the person who works the hardest. And there is no better time to start creating that good work ethic then when your kids are young. That’s why I am going to tell you how to introduce chores to your child.
Young children are, after all, adept at learning new information. They are also really good at taking what they have learned and applying it to new situations. If you begin to give your child some jobs that they can accomplish and then praise their efforts, they’ll want to come back for more. Listed below are the steps you can follow to start them down the right path for success later in life.
Make It Manageable
When you begin to give your child jobs that they need to complete, keep their smallness in mind. For instance, I wouldn’t recommend you make your toddler gather all of the trash in the house and take it out to the curb! Rather, make it their job to clean up all of the toys when they are done playing. Another easy job would be to help set and clear the table.
Each child is different, of course, so use your knowledge of your little one to help determine what types of work they complete. What worked for my children might not be applicable for your kid, or perhaps your child can handle for difficult tasks right away. Remember, you want them to be successful, so make it something they can manage.
Make It Fun
Since you’re trying to get little kids to work, and work can be, well…boring, you should try to make it as fun as possible. The last thing that you want to do is stress your kid out while they are getting their job done, or make an even bigger and scold them if they forget to get their job done. As Mary Poppins once famously sang “A spoon full of sugar helps the medicine go down”!
Pile On The Praise
When you are first getting your little one to complete their special little jobs, make sure that you pile on the praise as much as possible. Don’t be afraid to give out as many high fives, kisses, hugs, stickers, or any other motivational tool that works for your kid as often as possible.
Children are people, after all. While we poor adults, sadly, don’t hear praise for our efforts all that much, when we do, it is a huge motivator when we receive it. You’ll find that your kids will work extra hard when a reward is on the line.
Don’t Be Afraid To Back Off
If you start this process, and your kid just doesn’t seem ready to complete the tasks you have set out for them or, worse yet, start to throw tantrums and shut down when it’s time for them to get their jobs done, don’t be afraid to back off. The last thing that you want to do is to turn them off of work altogether. It’s better to be patient and let your child experience success right away than to try and force it and turn them against it.
Have A Growth Mindset
A growth mindset is a phrase coined by Carol Dweck over 30 years ago, and it still holds water today. This way of thinking implies that if you put in enough effort towards any sort of goal, you’ll eventually find success, which could not be truer for pretty much everything that your children have learned and achieved since they were born.
Think about it. When your itty bitty baby wanted to crawl, they had to work at it for a long time before they had success. It’s the same thing with walking. I’m sure that they didn’t just up and start walking around the room one day, no sir. They fell, a lot. Young children already have this mindset down pat, and it’s up to us as parents to keep this going.
The best way to do this is, like I said before, praise their efforts. Instead of telling them that they are so smart or so clever when they accomplish the chore you have provided them, tell them how proud you are of how hard they worked. If they seem to struggle with a job, keep telling them that they’ll get it if they keep working so hard. Believe me, before know it they’ll be saying it themselves!
That’ll Get The Job Done!
As I said before, a good work ethic is essential to a successful life. Now that you know how to introduce chores to your child, you can push them in the right direction for a great life.
Thank you very much for taking the time to read this article, and if you have any questions, comments, or suggestions, please let me know in the comment section below. Have a great day!