The Father’s Job During Delivery: A Guide
So you and your girl are expecting a baby? Awesome! There is no job on this planet quite like being a dad. I’ve been in your shoes, several times actually. You’re excited, you’re thrilled, I get it. But have you given any thought to the actual, um, birth of your child? Have you taken the time to think about what a father’s job during delivery actually entails?
Probably not. But that’s ok, that’s alright, I am here to help you out! I have gone through this whole process myself a few times, and if you think that you get to sit on the sidelines and your lady will do all the work, you have another thing coming! But don’t worry, it’s all a labor of love, and when the time comes, you’ll be happy to help out. In this article, I’ll give you a quick rundown of how you can help make your baby’s birth go as smoothly as possible.
Go To Class
Before you ever get to the big day, be sure that you take the time to go along with your girl to labor and delivery class. I cannot state how important this is! In these classes, you’ll learn tons of useful information like breathing techniques.
The teacher will also probably review the different types of contractions and relaxation techniques. The reason you need to be there, of course, is because your wife/girlfriend is going to be too preoccupied with the pain to remember how she is supposed to breathe, and so it is fully up to you to remind her.
When your baby’s due date is approaching, you need to make final preparations ahead of time, so you don’t need to worry about anything else when the time comes. While your significant other will want to pack the hospital bag, it’s your job to make sure the thing is in the car, ALL THE TIME! That way you won’t scramble around for it when she goes into labor in the middle of the night.
Even though she’ll be packing the bag, you need to make sure some essentials are present for both her comfort and yours. Items like:
Snacks – There is absolutely no telling when the little bundle will decide to make their appearance, and odds are if you try to make a run to the cafeteria, that is when it will happen. Make sure you can stay put by bringing along plenty of food to keep you in the room the whole time.
Music – There is nothing better to get your mind off of pain or stress than a little music. Make sure you have a playlist of HER favorites at the ready to help her stay calm and relax.
Chargers – All of the best music in the world isn’t going to help you if your player dies on you! Make sure you’ve got the right chargers
Focus Items – This is something that they will probably mention in your labor and delivery classes, but bring something along for your wife to focus on when her contractions get worse. It will help take her mind off the pain she is experiencing.
Alright! The baby is very close to being born, the nurses and doctors are there, and your lady is in need of some serious help that only you can provide. You can be a big help during this time by doing the following helpful tasks.
Help Her To Breath – Here is where all of those lessons you two learned will only be remembered by you. When the contractions are at their worst, and she is beginning to push, stay close and breathe with her. It will keep her from crying out in pain, which is a big waste of her energy.
Keep Ice Handy – Having babies is hot and sweaty work. Keep some ice nearby to run up and down her arms and across her forehead. The cool sensation will help keep her on track.
Encourage Her – When my wife was delivering my children, I continuously talked to her and told her she was doing well, even if I wasn’t really sure! Once the pain intensifies during delivery, your voice will be a huge focus point for her to keep working through her pain.
Don’t Faint! – I have never been a particularly squeamish person, so I never really had to worry about this, but it might happen to you! If you feel yourself start to swoon from the sights, sounds, and smells of the delivery room, take a seat and get a breather. Then, jump back into the fray, because your girl needs you!
Phew! The baby is born, and everyone is doing well. Your work is done, right? Wrong! You still have tons of stuff to do to help your partner out. I mean, she just pushed a human being out of her body! She has done enough, and it will be up to you to allow her to recover a bit before you three (!) head for home. That means you need to:
Change Diapers – Honestly, your baby probably won’t have that many dirty diapers during the hospital stay, but if they do, you need to be on hand to help out.
Rock – If the baby is sad and they already ate, take them and rock them and give your wife a break.
Walk – Better yet, take them for a stroll through the maternity ward, which will give your girl a chance to get some shut eye.
A Labor Of Love
The most important thing you can do during the birth of your child is just to be present. Help in any way that you can and just be there for your lady. I hope that these tips will help you during the delivery process. If you have any questions, comments, or advice of your own, please let me know in the comments below. Good luck!